A Nollywood actress and filmmaker, Jaiye Kuti, made some startling confessions recently when she stated that many married women, including her, wanted to leave their marriages. According to her, she actually tried to leave her marriage three times.
However, in an interview with Saturday Beats, she stated that the only way to handle challenges in marriage was through understanding and forgiveness. She said, “I actually wanted people to know that marriage is not a bed of roses. I want women to know that understanding has 150 percent to do in the success of every marriage, because love is not enough. Yes, you need to love one another.
But there will be a time when you will look at each other and wonder how you got married in the first place. That is the point where understanding comes in. Both spouses will have to understand that everybody is human and is prone to mistakes. If the parties involved are not ready to forgive each other, they won’t be able to sustain the marriage.
“What if your husband cheats? Even men who don’t cheat could have other issues. I have been married for over 20 years. If I add the period of our courtship, that will be 25 years. My husband actually sponsored my education at the University of Lagos before we got married in 2000.”
The actress added that young ones should have it in their minds that they would not get 100 per cent happiness, love or romance.
Reacting to women who claim that their marriages will not have challenges because of their religious beliefs, Kuti said, “There is nothing like Jesus will not let my marriage be like that. Marriage has been ordained to have those challenges, whether one likes it or not, and whether one is a Christian, Muslim or even atheists. Marriages usually have challenges, and one just has to take it that way.”